So much of life involves superficial interactions with people who are distracted and ungrounded.
That’s why it stands out when you make a genuine connection with someone - it’s uplifting and energizing.
What do I mean by a genuine connection?
It’s when you create an aura of trust and encouragement with someone - where you feel comfortable sharing your feelings, vulnerabilities and can be your most authentic self.
Forming a real connection with someone will make you feel less isolated, more hopeful and joyful. If you are experiencing a moment of grief, it can comfort you.
It’s also a spiritual connection that offers validation, insight and healing.
Validation happens when you experience self-acceptance and love and see this reflected in someone else.
As you feel more connected, your heart chakra will open up. You’ll notice that it’s easier to tap into the vibration of compassion and empathy.
What gets in the way of forming real connections?
When you are struggling to connect to someone else, it’s usually a sign that you are disconnected. Often, this will manifest as feelings of fear, negativity or stubbornness. It will be easier to cling to preconceived notions about people rather than being open and in the moment.
What steps can you take to open yourself up to a genuine connection?
I always say that there’s no substitute for being grounded. When you’re grounded, you feel more secure and calm. It allows you to tap into your feelings and instincts.
Practice honesty. Be real with someone. Take a chance.
Practice empathy. Listen to the other person. Imagine yourself in their shoes. Spiritually, we’re all made of the same Universal Energy.
Emotional and energetic blocks can manifest in our bodies as pain, disease or other health issues.
Recently, I worked with a client who was having trouble becoming pregnant due to some reproductive issues. She was undergoing treatment, however doctors told her that she should not expect much and that she should definitely not get her hopes up about conceiving.
I began our session by setting up my space to look at her female energy and tune into her creative energy.
Right away, I noticed her 1st and 2nd chakras were blocked by a dark, heavy mud- like substance that was restricting the flow of energy and clogging the female channel.
The picture accompanying the block was that she was afraid of being stifled creatively. Coincidentally, she made her living in the arts and – at the time of our reading – her business had come to a stand still. Family programming had made her fearful that she wasn’t going to be able to be a mum and still be independent and creative. The dark energy represented the effort she was in as well as the anxiety she had about not being in control of the next chapter of her life.
As I was draining the dark energy away, I immediately began to flush the area with gold light.
Why? Because gold light is the powerhouse of all healings! It’s the highest vibration you can use as it comes directly from the Universe.
As I continued to flush gold light into the blockage, I began to see more and more of her life force energy returning as the darkness drained away.
As my client was getting her own energy back, she commented on the lightness and the tingling sensation that she was experiencing. As we completed the healing, she told me that – for the first time – she wasn’t worried, that she could absolutely see herself having a baby and how ecstatic and joyful that would make her feel.
You can use gold light to heal yourself and ANY situation in your life.
If you have a sore leg, go ahead and send gold light to your leg and feel the energy melt into the area. The faster you run gold through the area, the more power and energy you will experience!
Watch and become aware as gold energy flows through each cell and radiates this new vibration.
When you connect with Universal energy and use gold light, you can heal pains and aches, regenerate cells, remove blocks and rebalance your energy…you can do it all!
Like everything, the more you practice this technique, the more you will notice a difference in your energy.
There will be times in your life when you feel disengaged from the world.
You might find yourself avoiding connections with new people such as work colleagues, potential friends or love interests.
Maybe you believe that you can't speak up and be yourself and that you must hide from reality.
You might feel stuck, stagnant or bored. Perhaps this boredom is leading to self-destructive behavior...
These are all signs that you need to create new experiences in your life. The best way to do this is to put yourself out there.
But what exactly does it mean to put yourself out there?
It means expanding your comfort zone and doing things that challenge you. It means shaking things up and trying things that you normally wouldn't.
It's about being open and allowing your energy to be more out there.
Practice taking a leap of faith and saying yes to things. Accept an invitation or better yet, initiate something.
Don't be shut down by perfect pictures. Almost any situation is an opportunity for growth if you stay connected and true to yourself.
Don't be afraid of failure or embarrassment! You will regret missed opportunities far more than the occasional stumble.
Putting yourself out there can be uncomfortable. Practice being in the uncomfortable place. Visualize yourself acting in these moments. Practice using breath and gold energy to stay grounded.
Your spirit is constantly working to create new opportunities for personal growth. You'll begin to notice when these moments come up. It feels exciting and organic.
I always love the beginning of the year! For me, it's a wonderful opportunity to hit the reset button and start fresh.
It's the perfect time to look at the upcoming year and set your intentions. Think about all the areas in your life that you would like to continue to go deeper into.
I tend to focus on personal growth, career, relationships, spirituality, health, finances and community.
For example, focusing on personal growth might entail working on your emotional state so that you can be more grounded.
Being open in your career space might mean that you find new ways to put yourself out there by getting a new job, taking a class or by starting that business you always dreamed of.
Going deeper in your relationship might be to work on the state of your current relationship so that you can discover new ways to communicate and be open.
To feel more connected spiritually you might begin a meditation practice so that you can be more calm and centered.
Improving your finances might be to make a budget so you can save money.
The desire to be help in your community might be to volunteer at your local pet shelter.
It helps to write intentions down. This way they become concrete and anchored in reality, especially once the initial thrill has worn off and you encounter your first obstacle.
As you look at 2019, part of your journey might be to change certain beliefs about yourself. You might have a belief that you are too busy to meditate every day or that you are too old to learn a new job.
Get creative, especially when it comes to money. I can't tell you how often I hear “I can't do this because I don't have the money.” It's amazing how opportunities open up once you commit to your endeavor.
Whatever this year has in store for you, embrace any opportunity to be authentic, honest and real.
The Holidays are upon us!
Whatever your tradition, it's a time of gathering with family, friends and significant others. It's a festive time, but it can also be stressful.
Focusing on the relationships in your life – family, friends and significant others - can intensify unresolved feelings and conflicts.
Perhaps you have a strained relationship with someone in your family? Or, maybe you've been ignoring a problem in your relationship?
Our relationships are a result of energetic agreements we have with other people. These agreements are a way for us to learn and evolve on a soul level.
Whether it's being born into a specific family (or joining one), having a child, meeting a spouse, making a friend or finding the perfect pet, all of these relationships happen because we need them for our spiritual growth. Our soul has made an agreement with the other person (or pet)If there is a stress in one of your relationships, what can you do?
Start by knowing that there is a reason for the relationship: this is an opportunity for growth and learning for you both.
Then ground yourself so that you can be open and listen. Make space for them to communicate and feel validated. Listen with a clear, quiet mind!
While you want to be open, don't suppress or diminish your truth. Reflect on your journey – where you've been, what you've learnt. Being open to someone else doesn't mean forgetting the path you've taken. It's important that you share your experience with the other person for their spiritual growth.
If you maintain openness to new ideas and connectedness with the truth and wisdom that you've learned, the energetic agreement will benefit you both.
Negative, stressful things happen! We all know someone (or maybe it’s us) who is going through a difficult time - a relationship issue, job loss or a health issue.
When these things happen, you tend to feel powerless. Your sense of strength and purpose is challenged. Anxiety kicks in and the nagging voice of worry and self-doubt takes over.
Situations where you feel unempowered create blocks and imbalances in your third Chakra.
The third Chakra is your energetic power center. It’s located above your belly button in the solar plexus. Confidence and self-esteem come from a healthy third Chakra
So - what can you do to regain your power when life throws you a curveball?
It sounds like a cliché, but it starts with taking a deep breath.
Bringing oxygen to your solar plexus will cleanse and re-energize your Chakra and restore the flow of energy. Also, focusing on your breath will help quiet your mind.
Take deep controlled breaths. Focus on the air gently moving in and filling your belly. With each exhale, feel the stress and negativity releasing.
If your mind starts to chatter, pause and then re-focus on your breathing.
Once your mind is quiet, continue to breathe deeply and imagine a bright golden ball of energy coming down over your head. As the gold light moves down through your body, you feel it healing and restoring every part of you.
See the energy reach your solar plexus. Feel the doubt and anxiety being washed away. Continue to breathe.
When you feel restored, allow the energy to continue down through your body and out through the soles of your feet.
It’s easy to look around at what’s happening in the world and feel a sense of hopelessness - that things are never going to change.
Destructive situations are constantly unfolding that can trigger angry, negative feelings.
You might feel depressed when you see how humans are treating one another, animals and the environment.
Rather than spiral downwards, how do you stay compassionate and centered so that you can take action and create positive change in the world?
One of the best ways to do this is by staying grounded during these difficult times.
Grounding is the act of spiritually connecting yourself to the planet and releasing negative thoughts, emotions and energy.
One of the easiest and fastest ways to ground is through breath. Take a few nice deep breaths and notice yourself come back into your body and begin to relax and slow down.
If you have a bit longer, here is a wonderful grounding technique that I use daily.
When you are grounded, you see things more clearly and have access to more energy. You might be inspired to help someone, speak up for someone or take action around a specific situation.
As you continue your grounding practice, you will notice that you feel more connected to other people. You will find other like-minded souls who are interested in what you are doing.
The act of grounding enables you to connect to your spirit and the power of Universal energy. Your positive actions will touch and inspire others and have a ripple effect. When enough ripples come together they create a wave.
There is a spiritual place in the center of your head that allows you to stay more neutral and allows you to respond, rather than react, to the ups and downs of daily life!
I continually return to this place when I want to tune out the external world and connect to my inner world. It’s my own private sanctuary!
Being in the center of your head will allow you to release excess mental noise so that you can hear and take advantage of your instincts and intuition.
In daily life, much of our attention gets focused externally. By making the conscious decision to return to the center of your head, you call your energy back and can detach from any situation.
From this place, you will be able to observe everything that is happening while remaining at your vibration.
Sit in a comfortable chair with your feet on the floor.
Close your eyes.
Take a nice deep breath. I like to breathe in through my nose, send energy down into my belly and then exhale out through my mouth.
Begin by Grounding. Step-by-step instructions are here.
Gently become aware of the center of your head.
For those of you who may be unfamiliar with this area, take your right index finger and place it on the right side of your temple (just above the ear) then place the left index finger on the corresponding side. Visualize an invisible line connecting the two points.
Now move one index finger to the center of your forehead. Take the second index finger and touch the back of your head at the exact same spot.
Visualize an invisible line connecting the two points.
The center of your head is located where the two lines intersect!! It’s also commonly referred to as the 6th chakra or third eye.
Take a nice deep breath and bring your awareness into this area.
Start to notice what thoughts and pictures arise. Just relax, breathe and release them down your grounding cord.
Begin to tune into your body – staying in the center of your head. Breathe deeply and begin to release any distractions, mental chatter or emotional energy.
Continue to breathe deeply and stay in the center of your head. If you find your attention wandering, just gently bring your awareness back to this area.
Continue to do this exercise for 10-15 minutes, or until you feel clear-headed and calm.
Like all good tools – the more you use this technique, the more you will notice a difference.
Last week, I re-watched one of the newer Star Trek movies.
In this particular movie, the scene opens with Captain Kirk (Chris Pine) sitting in the Enterprise bridge.
Kirk and his crew are on a space mission and they have been traveling for years.
Each day is tedious and a repetition of the previous day. Kirk is depressed, lonely and bored.
Does this sound familiar? Are you stuck in a cycle of tedium? Do you feel that life is passing you by?
If this is the case, it might be a sign that something in your life is misaligned spiritually and that it's time to make a change.
Common Feelings of Misalignment
-Fear of trying new things
-Feeling disconnected from your intuition
The first step in getting realigned is to acknowledge that there is a problem, that something is out of sync.
Tune into yourself to get clarity on what's not working. Take notes, write down the problem. Keep a journal.
Anytime you are about to make a change in your life, it’s a good idea to get an intuitive reading. Don’t make changes out of panic or because you’re reacting to something. You should make intentional changes that are guided by your higher self.
Take action to create your change. Even small steps in the right direction make a big difference.
Finally, you should accept that continual change is a part of life and get comfortable with the process.