Healing Relationships

I get clients who come to me and ask me to fix their relationship or to fix someone in their life so things will be easier. If only it were that easy!

Part of being on a spiritual journey is to develop the skills to evolve your relationships, but here’s the catch – it all starts with you!

While it is tempting to finger point and make it about the other person, true power comes from recognizing the role you play in the relationship. Then you can begin to release the negative emotions that cause you to feel angry, overburdened, guilty or resentful.

By shifting your attention back to you, you can consciously change how you see yourself. As you focus on your inner world, you learn how to stop taking on other people’s energy so that you stay aligned to your deeper spiritual truth.

This helps keep you grounded, calm and at peace with yourself.

We are all energy, so whoever you are dealing with will feel this shift and perceive you differently.

Even if this person never outwardly changes, you won’t continue to get caught in the cyclone of dissatisfaction and negative back and forth. Your new spiritual perspective will allow you to feel good about yourself and help keep your energy at a much higher vibration.

This is a much more empowered and loving way to be!

Here are some ways you can begin to heal yourself and your relationship:

  • Make the conscious decision to make it about you.
  • Change any outdated beliefs you have about yourself and your life.
  • Don’t judge yourself or the situation.
  • Be mindful of situations where you unconsciously slip back into negative thinking and begin to spiral down this path.
  • If you find yourself becoming obsessive or engaging in harmful thinking, distract yourself from the situation and refocus your thoughts and emotions on something positive.
  • Keep your energy focused on what you WANT, and not what you don’t want.
  • Close your eyes. In your mind’s eye, see that the relationship has already been healed. Tap into how good you are going to feel and let your body experience these emotions.

HELLO 2016!

I always love the beginning of the year! For me, it's a wonderful opportunity to hit the reset button and start fresh.

It's a great time to look at the upcoming year and identify all of the positive changes you want to make.

To start, think about all the areas in your life and come up with goals that will help you expand in each area.

I tend to focus on personal growth, career, relationships, spirituality, health and prosperity.

For example, a personal growth goal could be to work on your emotional state and to focus on being more grounded.

A career goal might be to find new ways to put yourself out there by getting a new job, taking a class or by starting that business you always dreamed of.

A relationship goal might be to work on the state of your current relationship so that you can discover new and deeper ways to communicate and be open.

A spiritual goal could be to begin a consistent meditation practice so that you can be more calm and centered.

A prosperity goal might be to make a budget so you can save money.

A health goal might include reducing your stress level by letting go of minor annoyances.

It helps to write your goals down. This way they become concrete and anchored in reality, especially once the initial thrill has worn off and you encounter your first obstacle.

It can be helpful to set a time frame to accomplish your goals and to think about additional resources you might need to help get you there.

As you look at your goals for 2016, part of your journey might be to change certain beliefs about yourself. You might have a belief that you are too busy to meditate every day or to nurture your spiritual well-being.

Get creative, especially when it comes to money. I can't tell you how often I hear “I can't do this because I don't have the money.” It's amazing how opportunities open up once you commit to your endeavor.

Let's be adventurous and fearless this year! Let's put ourselves out there and do what we've been dreaming about!

Dreams and Goals

Do you have a dream or goal that seems unreachable? The time to make it happen is now!

The biggest obstacles to achieving your dreams are perfect pictures. Perfect pictures block your creative energy and foster unrealistic beliefs about the way things "should" or "ought" to be.  When you create a perfect picture, you obsess over every step and exert effort to make it happen.

When you have a goal or intention, you should simply put it out there and let it unfold.

The first thing to do is set a simple goal to provide a starting point and help get you moving.

Write it down so you can come back to it.

Set aside a little time each day to work on this space.

Meditation is a beautiful way to get in touch with your intuition and gain insight into next steps to reach your goal.

Stay in present time so you can remain open to new ideas and experiences.

Find a community of like-minded people to nourish and feed your dream!

Hang out and talk with other people on a similar path or journey. It's a wonderful way to stay motivated and inspired.

Remember, it's never too late to make a dream come true!

Wake up to Your Truth

Do you care what other people think about you? Fear of how others perceive you will put restrictions on how you experience life and will stop you from waking up to your highest good.

By not being true to yourself, you will invite feelings of dissatisfaction, self-criticism, alienation and anxiety due to not being in control.

The need to control is an illusion and is deeply rooted in fear.  Fear of the unknown, fear of abandonment, fear of failure, fear of being judged, the list goes on and on.

The ego is always seeking security and approval and gets in the way of us seeing deeper truths.

The first step to wake up to your truth is to accept who you are and love all the parts that make up you.

Begin to see yourself and everyone else though the eyes of unconditional love. Imagine the freedom and freewill you will experience as a result of seeing everyone at this vibration!

Let go of the need to base your identity on material success and the roles you play in life. The more spirit-centered you are, the more you can go beyond the physical realm and recognize your connection to all things.

Don't judge others. Judgment creates artificial boundaries separating you from the shared spiritual life force energy. From this space we are all connected and we are all one.

Try to get out of your head so you can stop overthinking. A lot of what we think about ourselves is only true because that's what we believe. Begin to change the channel on how you think about yourself and start to tell yourself a new story.

The only way to begin to interact differently is by doing! Start small and build on that.  With each new experience you will get more aligned to the magnificence that is you!

Loving Deeply

I have many people who come to me and say they have trouble finding a deep, meaningful relationship.

When I look at the energy, I often find that they've put up barriers and there is fear around being vulnerable.

It's natural to want to protect yourself from being hurt, rejected or getting involved with the wrong person. Because of this, you tend to keep feelings at a surface level and keep your true self protected behind defensive mechanisms and personal narratives.

To reveal your true self to someone is an act of deep, spiritual love and trust. It's the act of loving deeply!

While loving deeply can lead to grief and despair – particularly around loss, it makes you more empathetic, compassionate and above all – human.

Loving someone deeply means that you recognize that you are the same at the core. Only surface things are different. You share a common bond and celebrate your differences.

Loving deeply is a way of being in the world and as long as you are aligned and connected with your higher self, you will attract someone on a complementary path.

Grounding Yourself: How to create a grounding cord

One of the first energy techniques I ever learnt was how to create a grounding cord. What the heck is a grounding cord, I hear you ask? A grounding cord is an energy connection that goes from your body down into the Earth. This cord acts like an anchor that keeps your body safe and helps you release unwanted energy from your space.

Not only are we picking up energy from external sources, but we are generating our own energy through emotional thoughts, fears, beliefs and past experiences.

When you have too much energy running through your body, it's easy to become stressed out and anxious. Grounding helps your body begin to relax and keeps you in the present moment so that you can respond to situations rather than react.

You can ground yourself anywhere and anytime!

How to Ground

Sit in a comfortable chair with your feet on ground.

Close your eyes and start to focus inwards.

Take a couple of nice deep breaths. Every day is different, some days it's really easy to connect to your breath and feel it move down into your belly, other days, depending on what is going on for you it may be more of a process. Just be gentle and take whatever time you need to experience nice long inhalations.

Relax as you breathe, begin to tune into how your body feels.

Shift your attention down to your first chakra. Chakras are energy centers that reside within the body. There are 7 major chakras throughout the body. The one that we will use to ground ourselves is the first chakra, located near the base of the spine.

Be aware of this area and allow a cord of energy to flow downward from your body: Through the chair you are sitting in, through the floor, passing down through the buildingís foundation and into the soil. Allow your grounding cord to flow down past all the rocks and layers until it reaches the center of the planet.

When the cord reaches the Earth's center, see it connected securely to your first chakra. Now go ahead and extend the cord as wide as your hips and see the entire cord at this new width.

Hollow out your grounding cord and start to let go of any person, place, thought or emotion that appears, allow them to simply drain away. Release any distraction, anxiety and tension down your grounding cord. Breathe, relax and begin to let go. Notice how your body responds to your grounding cord.

Once you get the hang of grounding you can get creative. Some cords I like to use are a waterfall, redwood tree, or any tree for the matter as well as a beam of light.

Just see whatever you use begin at your first chakra and drop down to the center of the planet.

Enjoy!!


Insight through Intuition

More and more tech companies are doing what they can to help employees handle stress and unplug.

There is widespread recognition that meditation and mindfulness enhance performance and teamwork. Even companies outside of the tech world, like Safeway and Clif Bar, have found real tangible benefits to programs like exercise, meditation and yoga.

While a daily meditative practice is beneficial in terms of cognitive performance and reducing stress, it will also help quiet your mind so you can be open to your intuition.

Intuition is insight that comes to you from out of the blue. It’s when you know the answer to something without having to follow all of the logical steps to reach it.  You may have also heard it referred to as a “gut feeling”, “sixth sense’, or knowingness.

We sometimes discount our intuitive abilities because it’s hard to trust the source of this information.

Have you ever been in a situation where a question was asked and you immediately received the answer? You might not have given the answer because you couldn’t trust or verify the answer. Later you found out that you were spot on!

Learning how to develop your intuition is one of the best gifts you can give yourself.

Exercises to Tune Into & Trust Your Intuition

  1. Meditate daily!!
  2. When you are asked a question, keep track of the first answer that pops into your head. Write down the answer if you are not comfortable verbalizing it. Compare your written answer to the correct answer. See how often you are right!
  3. When the phone rings, before you look at the caller id or pick up your phone, say the name of who you think is calling out loud (no cheating with ringtones!). See how often you are right!
  4. Think about someone you know. See them clearly in your mind. Notice how long it takes the person to contact you or for you to run into them.

The more you use your intuition, the more you will notice the benefits! You will get more confident making big decisions and begin to trust yourself even if others can’t quite see the logic.


How Spirituality Can Help with Anxiety

I don’t know about you, but I have certainly had my fair share of anxiety-provoking situations.
These situations are never easy and they tend to manifest in the lower chakras – the survival and Earth-bound chakras!

Over time, I have developed ways to deal with anxiety thanks to my spiritual practice, mindful breathing and a daily grounding meditation.

Spirituality allows you to attain a more philosophical mindset and you begin to see that everything tends to work out. You come to understand that, while you can’t control forces outside of yourself, you can control how you feel about yourself. This allows you to stay healthy and positive.

You realize that your energy is most effective at manifesting your goals when you are in the present moment.

For me, one way to alleviate anxiety is by focusing on my breathing. It’s not hard.

Breathing & Grounding Exercise

Relax your shoulders and tilt your head back slightly.

Breathe in through your nose – be sure to inhale slowly and send air down to fill up your belly and not just your lungs. Sometimes it helps to put your hands on your belly to feel it expand.

Exhale slowly out through your mouth. Keep your jaw relaxed and extend your breath for as long as you can.

Try making a gentle audible sound when you exhale so that you can focus on and extend the breathing cycle.

Repeat this at least three times or until you start to calm down. This should calm your nervous system and slow your heart rate.

Once your breathing is under control, your next step will be to create a grounding cord to help continue to release anxiety from your physical, emotional and mental being.

Once grounded, you will notice your mind quieting and your body relaxing. This will make space for you to access your spiritual information and break free of the cycle of fear and anxiety!

If you truly want to overcome anxiety, I recommend finding a spiritual practice that will help you change the way you think about yourself and the world around you.

The next time you are confronted with a situation that induces anxiety, rather than convince yourself that the worst is about to happen, apply your enlightened mindset to the situation and notice if you feel stronger and more optimistic. Allow these feelings to inspire you into action!

An Energy Healing for your Business

Everything in the Universe is made up of energy and your business is no different!

Have you ever noticed that when you feel really good about what you are offering and you’re not stressed out, business tends to be good and things flow effortlessly?

This is because your business space is a reflection of your energetic space.

If you create out of fear, you will attract people who are fearful. It’s won’t be fun and it won’t lead to any growth or expansion in your business.

When you energize your business with new interests and ideas, you open the door to new and exciting opportunities.

To manifest your new ideas, you must bring them into present time. You accomplish this through letting go of old pictures and making space for the new ones.

What happens during an intuitive business reading?

The first thing I do is to look at the energy of your business space and give you feedback about the health of your business.

I look at old beliefs, self-doubts, limiting ideas and other ways you might be stunting your growth.

I read your work environment for any problematic energy or situations.

There can be pictures and information around contracts and negotiations, relationships with clients and coworkers and other lingering problems.

The more aligned you are with your business offerings, the more you will stand out from your competitors and the more you will attract new clients and opportunities.