self-acceptance

Making Genuine Connections

So much of life involves superficial interactions with people who are distracted and ungrounded.

That’s why it stands out when you make a genuine connection with someone - it’s uplifting and energizing.

What do I mean by a genuine connection?

It’s when you create an aura of trust and encouragement with someone - where you feel comfortable sharing your feelings, vulnerabilities and can be your most authentic self.

Forming a real connection with someone will make you feel less isolated, more hopeful and joyful. If you are experiencing a moment of grief, it can comfort you.

It’s also a spiritual connection that offers validation, insight and healing.

Validation happens when you experience self-acceptance and love and see this reflected in someone else.

As you feel more connected, your heart chakra will open up. You’ll notice that it’s easier to tap into the vibration of compassion and empathy.

What gets in the way of forming real connections?

When you are struggling to connect to someone else, it’s usually a sign that you are disconnected. Often, this will manifest as feelings of fear, negativity or stubbornness. It will be easier to cling to preconceived notions about people rather than being open and in the moment.

What steps can you take to open yourself up to a genuine connection?

I always say that there’s no substitute for being grounded. When you’re grounded, you feel more secure and calm. It allows you to tap into your feelings and instincts.

Practice honesty. Be real with someone. Take a chance.

Practice empathy. Listen to the other person. Imagine yourself in their shoes. Spiritually, we’re all made of the same Universal Energy.

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Self-Love

"For me, love is the most important force. It moves the universe." - Laura Esquivel

February is the month we celebrate love and all the joyous ways it makes us feel.

There are many ways you can experience love: through family, a significant other, friends, pets, finding your purpose, volunteering, art, nature and let’s not forget loving yourself!

Before you can truly love someone else, you must first be able to feel love for yourself. Loving yourself is all about self-acceptance and waking up to your true self.

Self-love is a continual cycle of:
Self-discovery – seeking to understand who you are as spirit
Self-improvement – committing to growth and being open to change
Self-acceptance – forgiving yourself and having trust in yourself

Staying connected to your heart and higher self is the best way that you can strengthen and nurture a positive and loving relationship with yourself.

Take a few minutes each day to fill yourself up with love. Take a few deep breaths and see and feel a gold light coming down through the top of your head. This gold light is Universal Love. Continue to breathe in this incredible gold light and send it down throughout your entire body. With each breath feel this energy filling up each cell and radiating love.

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What I learned about Self-Acceptance from a Dog

This past December I was faced with a daunting challenge.

I was volunteering with a local animal rescue group and had met Sophie, a two-year old German Shepherd who was in need of a home.

Sophie was a sweetheart with a very sensitive soul.

Sophie’s spirits were low since she was living in a busy shelter. I wanted to foster or adopt her myself, but I couldn’t because I live with cats.

To further complicate matters, Sophie had recently been attacked by another dog and was wearing a cone to protect the stitches in her front paw.

I came to love this gentle and loyal hound! I knew if someone was patient and willing to put in some work, Sophie would thrive and become an incredible dog and companion.

I was posting Sophie’s information on FB in the hopes of finding her a home and telling her story to anyone that would listen.

Sophie and I met a couple of potential adopters and it did not go well. I found myself in effort trying to explain her quirks and getting them to see what I could see.

Eventually, I began to relax about the process. So what, if it took a little bit longer to find someone who felt exactly the same way about Sophie that I did!

I was taking Sophie out for a walk to meet a potential adopter – Claudia.

We met Claudia at a local park. I let Sophie be Sophie and didn’t try to make her anything other than the loveable, goofy, anxious, hot mess that she was.

Claudia saw all of this and was willing to take a chance on her.

I’m happy to report that Sophie is now “Juno” and happily living with Claudia and has a big dog-sister Hettie.

Like Juno, with the right support, encouragement and attention, a person is able to let their guard down and show their true personality.

While it may seem frightening to be the person who is opening up, other people will react positively to your honesty and vulnerability. You will form closer friendships and relationships and be happier.

Also, if you see a friend struggling, be supportive and encouraging. You will help them unlock their personality and you will have a great new relationship!

Here is Juno loving her new life!

An Introduction to the Chakras - 4th Chakra

THE FOURTH CHAKRA

 OFFICIAL NAME: Heart Chakra

WHERE IT IS IN THE BODY: in the center of the chest

COLOR: Green

The fourth chakra is located in the center of the chest and relates to love, compassion, self-acceptance and relationships.  The heart chakra is our spiritual center and is the gateway between the lower (body) chakras and the higher (spirit) chakras.

 WHEN YOUR FOURTH CHAKRA IS BALANCED IT HELPS

  •  Become aware that we are all connected and that life is sacred
  •  Love without conditions
  •  Whole-hearted. You are not afraid to be open and vulnerable in relationships
  •  Tend to be able to let things goand don’t always need to be right
  •  Heal through forgiveness
  •  See yourself as perfect just the way you are

Out of all the chakras, the heart chakra has the most potential for hurt due to the fear, insecurities and vulnerabilities around love and relationships.

 HOW TO TELL IF YOUR FOURTH CHAKRA IS BLOCKED

  •  Co-dependent relationships
  •  Always get together with people that are wrong for you
  •  Feel jealous, envious and never good enough
  •  Fear intimacy or getting close to people because you may get hurt or have your heart broken
  •  Become needy and clingy and afraid that your partner doesn’t love you as much as you love them.
  •  Going through the motions in life, no passion or joy for anything you do