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Shedding Destructive Behavior

The world is a chaotic place. At times it's easy to feel overwhelmed and that you can’t cope with all that’s going on.

As a result, you may find yourself engaging in unhealthy habits and behaviors that are not good for your mind, body or soul.

Self-destructive behavior can manifest in many ways. It might start off innocently enough and then spiral completely out of control.

Self-destructive habits can become addictions that flare up when you need to escape uncomfortable situations or avoid intense emotions - they help mask feelings of self-loathing and low self-esteem.

Common Destructive Behaviors

  • Alcohol

  • Drugs

  • Smoking

  • Unhealthy Relationships

  • Unbalanced Eating

  • Self-Harm

  • Social Isolation

  • Excessive Shopping

  • Gambling

  • Self-Pity

  • Apathy (failing to take action in life)

When you regularly engage in self-destructive behavior, it blocks personal growth and emotional maturity. It affects all areas of your life and your relationships.

For example, you tell yourself that you are someone that needs a drink to relax and connect with others. Yet because you have a problem, you end up saying and doing things that create conflicts in your relationships.

If you or someone you love is struggling with addiction, you should seek medical attention and counseling. In addition, deep spiritual work can help you find peace of mind and get you re-connected to your feelings.

Meditation, yoga, spending time in nature, nurturing your body with good food and finding a support group of like-minded people are all ways that you can start to take better care of yourself and make healthier choices.

When you are doing things that fill you up with new energy and purpose you will begin to feel more self-love and self-acceptance.

Over time, you will learn new coping skills to process and deal with intense emotions and uncomfortable feelings.

Emotionally happy and grounded people are less likely to want to bring a lot of chaos and negativity into their lives.


Your Knee Chakras

Recently, I had to deal with a very stressful situation. It was not something I had planned on and it was very emotionally challenging.

The situation involved something that I cared deeply about, yet I was not able to control the outcome. The outcome was dependent on a number of outside forces.

As a result, I began to feel stressed out, frustrated and ungrounded.

I ended up being in an accident where I hurt myself and I am still recovering from the injury.

As an intuitive reader, I am always reading myself. Any time I get an injury I use it as an opportunity to look at and heal old patterns, fears and behaviors in my life.

One of the key places where I hurt myself was my knee. Physical injuries often correspond to blocks in your energy centers.

There are small chakras located around your knees. These minor chakras are particularly sensitive to certain situations and respond poorly to unproductive energy.


When you are faced with a challenging situation, it’s very easy to get disconnected from your emotional and spiritual energy. Internally, you feel rigid and tense.

It’s very important for your knee chakras that you remain flexible and open to new information and new ways of being during this time. Try breathing and letting go of any pictures, thoughts or beliefs that are counter to this.


Unexpected things happen in life! How you react to these situations will directly impact the health of your knees.

When you feel responsible for something that triggers strong emotions, you tend to force things and try to over control the situation. This often has the opposite effect of what you were hoping for.

Try letting go of your perfect pictures and try to understand that there are some things that we just have no control over.

The best approach is to have a big-picture plan, but at the same time, be willing to revise the plan as things evolve. Due to your newfound flexibility, you can adapt to any new path that presents itself.


When you are in a stressful situation, it can be challenging to slow down and take a step back.

This will keep you focused on numerous small details. As these details accumulate, you will begin to feel overwhelmed.

This short gold light meditation will help release stress and clear your mind in a matter of minutes!

First, see gold light flowing throughout your entire body. It should start at your head and go all the way down and out your feet. With each breath, imagine all your fears, worries and insecurities leaving your body. Then send gold energy into your knees. Let the gold light heal any pictures to do with control, flexibility and micromanagement.

Notice as the knee area begins to soften, relax and radiate new energy.

Pay attention the next time you experience knee pain. By tuning into your emotional and mental state – and by remaining open and in flow – you can heal your knee chakras. How empowering is that?