Where’s Your Happy Place?

Do you have a special place you go to when you need to relax and unwind? Do you have a quiet sanctuary to go to when you feel stressed about relationships, work, money or life?

When we become disconnected, these are the places that naturally bring us back into a calm, relaxed and blissed-out state. These environments help reconnect us to our mind, body and spirit.

Okay, perfect! Problem solved…except maybe you can’t always escape to your special place when you need to.

To make matters worse, maybe you are required to be in an environment that is particularly chaotic and stressful – the exact opposite of what you need when you feel out of alignment.

What do you do when you need the positive and healing energy of your sanctuary but can’t get there?

The good news is that you have the ability to go to this magical place from anywhere and at any time.

It’s as easy as visualizing yourself in this space and tapping into the flow of energy you experienced while you were there.

The flow of energy is Universal Energy and it runs through everything. There are no limits to what it can do. 

When you are connected to Universal Energy you will notice that there is less conflict and chaos around you and stressful situations will resolve themselves naturally.

Whenever you need to reestablish your connection with the Universe simply close your eyes and create a mental picture of a place where you felt happy, peaceful and calm.

Maybe it’s in your garden surrounded by trees, flowers and birds or it was the last time you were at the beach listening to the sound of waves. The sun is on your face and everything is vibrant and alive.

Let the flow of energy move through every cell in your body and notice how much lighter and open you feel.


Getting Reconnected

There may be times in your life when you feel blocked and things aren’t going well.

You feel disconnected. You feel overwhelmed by things happening around you - politics, environmental issues, disasters, suffering - and also things happening directly to you like health, family, relationship and financial issues.

When these things happen, you become fearful and old habits and defense mechanisms kick in.

These situations often leave you feeling powerless and shut off from your energy - you feel the Universe is not available to you in that moment.

The opposite is true. You have infinite Universal energy that can empower you to face any situation and create new solutions.

Getting reconnected to your energy is the key. When you do, you will begin to notice your energy flowing again and your mind and heart begin to open. You will feel light, alive and in the moment. From this place, you gain a new perspective, a new sense of calm and will often come up with a creative solution.

Getting reconnected is easy! The fastest and simplest way is through breath. Here's a simple breath technique that I use when things start to go awry:

Breath Technique

  1. Sit in a comfortable chair
  2. Close your eyes (this helps you to focus inward).
  3. Gently breathe in through your nose and send oxygen down into your belly. Exhale out through your mouth.
  4. Continue to inhale deeply through your nose and out through your mouth - this will slow your heart rate
  5. With each exhalation, feel your mental chatter and stress being released
  6. Focus on your breath so that you can continue to let go of your blocks, fears and distractions.
  7. Allow yourself to sink deeper into total stillness.
  8. When you find that place of stillness, give yourself some time to experience it.
  9. If you do not immediately find this place, don't worry. Try focusing on gold light to help calm your mind. Visualize the gold light entering your body with each breath.
  10. When you feel yourself restored, take a moment to enjoy this new feeling.

My Kiwi Tribe

Each of us wants to feel like we belong somewhere and that we have people in our lives that care about us and see us for who we truly are.

This need to connect to other human beings goes all the way back to our cavemen days. The survival and wellbeing of the tribe was dependent upon people looking out for one another and forming strong social bonds.

Even in this day and age, studies show that people who are part of a community are less likely to feel isolated, get depressed or become spiritually disconnected!

Most of you already know this, but for those of you who are new here, I’m originally from New Zealand. I moved to the Bay Area many years ago and while I feel very at home here, a few years ago I really started to feel cut off from my Kiwi roots.

I began to miss big things like the Maori culture, as well as the little things like phases and words that I grew up with. For example I bet you had no idea that a bach is a holiday home, a dairy is a convenience store and jandals are flip flops!

I began to experience a profound longing to re-connect with old friends and to have this energy in my life.

I set the intention that I wanted a much deeper connection to NZ without having to physically live there.

Thanks to Facebook old school friends began to re-emerge and I re-established a relationship with my best friend in high school.

Then along came the America’s Cup that took place in San Francisco.

The final was between Oracle and New Zealand. For me, it wasn’t just about the sailing competition. I had the opportunity to meet and bond with other New Zealanders who now reside here in the Bay Area.

Through our shared support and love of Team New Zealand, I experienced a strong sense of community that will continue long after the sailing is over.


  • Set your Intention
  • What do you like to do? Rescue animals, Yoga, Spirituality, Cook, Blog…
  • Reach out to people.
  • Be around others who share the same interests, background or goals
  • Be open to moving out of your comfort zone
  • Know that you are never alone. Your tribe awaits!

My kiwi friend Monique and I supporting Team NZ