Shedding Destructive Behavior

The world is a chaotic place. At times it's easy to feel overwhelmed and that you can’t cope with all that’s going on.

As a result, you may find yourself engaging in unhealthy habits and behaviors that are not good for your mind, body or soul.

Self-destructive behavior can manifest in many ways. It might start off innocently enough and then spiral completely out of control.

Self-destructive habits can become addictions that flare up when you need to escape uncomfortable situations or avoid intense emotions - they help mask feelings of self-loathing and low self-esteem.

Common Destructive Behaviors

  • Alcohol

  • Drugs

  • Smoking

  • Unhealthy Relationships

  • Unbalanced Eating

  • Self-Harm

  • Social Isolation

  • Excessive Shopping

  • Gambling

  • Self-Pity

  • Apathy (failing to take action in life)

When you regularly engage in self-destructive behavior, it blocks personal growth and emotional maturity. It affects all areas of your life and your relationships.

For example, you tell yourself that you are someone that needs a drink to relax and connect with others. Yet because you have a problem, you end up saying and doing things that create conflicts in your relationships.

If you or someone you love is struggling with addiction, you should seek medical attention and counseling. In addition, deep spiritual work can help you find peace of mind and get you re-connected to your feelings.

Meditation, yoga, spending time in nature, nurturing your body with good food and finding a support group of like-minded people are all ways that you can start to take better care of yourself and make healthier choices.

When you are doing things that fill you up with new energy and purpose you will begin to feel more self-love and self-acceptance.

Over time, you will learn new coping skills to process and deal with intense emotions and uncomfortable feelings.

Emotionally happy and grounded people are less likely to want to bring a lot of chaos and negativity into their lives.


Giving Away Your Power

Many of us have been in situations where we have given away our power.

When you give away your power, you literally give your energy to another person.

People give away their power for different reasons:

  • Family, cultural or gender programming
  • Group pressure
  • Idolization or envy of other people
  • Avoidance or apathy
  • Lack of confidence/self-esteem
  • Not wanting to establish healthy boundaries
  • Seeking Approval
  • Fear of speaking up
  • Looking outward for answers rather than within

When you give away your power, you become disconnected from your inner truth and this can cause energetic imbalances and blocks in your body.

The first step in reclaiming your power is to become aware of any interactions or situations that cause you to give it away.

One way to do this is to notice what happens to your third chakra.  The third chakra is in your solar plexus and is responsible for personal power. When you are giving away your power this area will feel tight, tense and nervous.

Start by taking a few deep breaths and tune into this area.

Breathe gold light down through your body. Let the gold light soak into your solar plexus and expand into your belly. Feel it melting away any tension and heavy energy before exhaling out. Repeat until you feel calm and your sense of power has been restored.

If you are still feeling unempowered, it can be a sign that you have a blocked third chakra – your power center.  If this is the case, then it might be time for a third chakra tune up and rebalancing reading.

Third Chakra Tune Up

This reading will look at any areas of your life where you are giving away your power. During the reading, I will unblock and re-align your third chakra. This will help you start to make more empowered choices that complement your unique spiritual path.